Monday, June 06, 2005
Me, mummy and grandma were talking todae about the trend of young ppl getting married early nowadaes (as in like at the age of 19? 20?)... It is such a
bizarre trend to me, and ppl like me can neva understand y ppl wld wanna settle down at such a young age.
Marriage. A word that somehow sounds extremely
intimidating to me.
In my
current opinion, marriage is kinda no pt. If u can be happily and carefreely dating, y wld u wanna tie urself and ur partner up and so-called 'settle down'? And stare at each other's face at home every dae, get bored of each other, and start an endless string of quarrels?
Some sae, ppl get married coz they wanna have kids and start a family. Which brings me to the next pt.
Having kids.
The idea of having kids is 100000000000000 times
scarier than the idea of marriage. Dun get me wrong, i do find babies and young toddlers veri cute and lovely, and i do
love children veri much (there was even this period of time that i so wanted to be a childcare teacher), but well having ur
own kids is juz different. U wun find them cute anymore when u r kept awake all nite by their cries, or when u hafta quit ur job to stay at home juz to look after them etc etc... U get my pt. Also, not forgetting the extreme
pain the mother has to go through during childbirth. Goodness me.
To me, the worst thing about having kids is, it is an
irreversible change. Kids r
permanent. U can't juz kick them away when u r busy, tired or juz plain irritated wif them. A female's life starts going downhill after having a kid... Imagine, everywhere u go, u'll hafta bring him/her along... U and ur husband's er4 ren2 shi4 jie4 (assuming u r actualli
enjoying it in the 1st place) wld be totally disrupted... U'll hafta spend so much time and effort (and money too, of coz) to raise him/her up, and there's no guarantee that he/she will be filial towards u in the future... The more i think of it, the scarier this becomes. *shudders*
Of coz, this is juz my thinking at this pt in time. I'm juz a 19-year-old, and i'm sure my mindset will change as i gradually mature and grow wiser etc... But one thing i'm veri certain - i will
not be thinking about settling down anytime soon. Nope, not even 5 years later. If i eva get married, i guez it'll be when i'm ard 28? Haha we'll see then.
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